Michelle Obama discusses new book “The Light We Carry”

Former First Lady Michelle Obama recently sat down to discuss her new book, “The Light We Carry,” parenting, and marriage. The following discussion happened during the Revolt x Michelle Obama special with host Angie Martinez, Tina Lawson, Kelly Rowland, H.E.R., and Winnie Harlow.
Michelle discussed how sometimes, young people give up too quickly when it comes to relationships.
I’m not being catty when I say this, but there were 10 years where I couldn’t stand my husband. It’s been ten years! Can you guess when it happened? “When those kids were young,” said Michelle, 58.
Barack Obama and Michelle have two daughters—Malia, 24, and Sasha, 21. They entered the White House at ages 10 and 7, respectively. Sasha has been the youngest person to live in the White House since John F. Kennedy’s children.
What are you doing? Who are your friends?’”
“The minute we had kids,” the former First Lady continued, “it was like, ‘Where are you going? What are you doing? Who are your friends?'” And how far?’
‘And you start measuring – like, “How many diapers did you change?” and “Oh, you’re golfing? And how far?”‘ You have time to golf? Why are you at the gym all the time?
The other ladies laughed and nodded in agreement at Obama’s comment, finding it humorous. “Why are you in my brain right now?” Kelly Rowland interjected.
I’m not even mad.”
“And guess what?” Michelle continued. “I’m not even mad.” Kids, they’re terrorists. They are what? They are demanding. They are not talking. They don’t communicate well. They’re always crying. They’re not thinking logically. They need a lot of attention. You love them more than anything. You can’t blame them. … So you turn that anger on each other.
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“For 10 years, as we’re trying to build our careers and worrying about school and who’s doing what and what, I felt like life wasn’t fair. And guess what?” Marriage is never 50/50. N/A There are times when I’m 70 and he’s 30, and there are other times when he’s 60 and I’m 40. I still like the same type of ice cream.
Guess what? I still like the same type of ice cream. We’ve been married for 30 years, 10 of them being spent in our current home. I would rather have 10 bad years than 30 because it’s all a matter of perspective. “I can’t take it,” she said. “Five years is too long.”
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The best-selling author responded to the question of whether it is worth sticking it out with someone by saying,
”You have to know your person. Like him, do you? Although you may be mad at him, do you still look at him and think, ‘I’m not happy with you, but I respect you.’ I don’t agree with you, but you’re still a kind, smart person and I’m sure my feelings will change over time. When the feeling of being [breathless in awe and love] goes away, people usually give up on it. Now you’re at work. You’re in the middle of it.
Barack and Michelle met at a law firm in Chicago in 1989 and married for 30 years. He was assigned Michelle as his mentor at the firm. After one month, Barack asked his now-wife on a date, but she wasn’t interested at first. The rest is history after she gave in eventually.
Becoming, Michelle’s first book, was a best-selling memoir. Her second book is The Light We Carry. The book was published on November 15 and can be found at all major bookstores.